“So is your wife staying at home permanently?”
“Permanently? Well, for the foreseeable future she will be raising the kids full time, yes.”
Yeah, I can’t imagine being a stay at home mom. It would be so BORING. [Giggles]
By the way, What does she DO ALL DAY?”
“Oh, just absolutely everything.
What do you do all day?”
“…Me? Ha! I WORK!”
“My wife never stops working."
"WHAT? THAT'S NOT WORK!!"
So, Do you think this way too?
Being a MOM is not a “JOB”
It’s true — being a mom isn’t a “JOB.” A job is something you do for part of the day and then stop doing. You get a paycheck. You have unions and benefits and break rooms but being a mother is the most challenging and most impressive work that a person can do. The tasks are as endless as the many hats a stay-at-home parent wears: babysitter, housekeeper, chef, accountant, interior designer, planner, nurse, therapist, playmate, educator, etc.
The number of roles played by one person is overwhelming and infinite. There are no set hours, there are no official break times, there are no sick days.
**This weblog is solely my opinion. Feel free to challenge me, disagree with me, or tell me I’m completely nuts in the comments section, but I reserve the right to delete any comment for any reason whatsoever – so keep it polite, please.
Not Rewarding But “Empowering”
I don’t quite understand why we’ve elevated “the workforce” to this heavenly status. Where do we get our idea of it? Having a job is necessary for some — it is for me — but it isn’t liberating or empowering. I used to have a job but being a Stay-at-home mom, makes me more empowering.
Whatever your job is — you are expendable. You are a number. You are a calculation. You are a servant. You can be replaced, and you will be replaced eventually. Am I being harsh? No, I’m being real.
If your mother or wife, quit her job as a computer analyst, she’d be replaced in four days and nobody would care. but If she quit her role as a mother, her entire lives would be turned upside down.
She is “JUST A MOTHER”
Yes, SHE IS JUST a mother. JUST. SHE JUST brings forth life into the universe, and SHE JUST shapes and moulds and raises that life. SHE JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. SHE JUST teaches her children how to be human beings, and, as they grow, SHE will JUST train them in all things, from morals to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. SHE is JUST the foundation and the rock on which your family is built. SHE is JUST everything to everyone.
Yes, SHE IS JUST A MOM. Which is sort of like looking at the sky and saying, “Hey, it’s just SUN.”
Equal “RESPECT” for all
Why don’t people acknowledge that these mothers work hard too, and thus deserve a status equivalent to any person who earns a salary for their work? The bitter truth is that we value money over love and care. For us, a job is only respectable if it earns you big bucks. Imagine how you may feel about doing something which earns you no money at all. That’s full-time parenting. That is why these facts are humbling and put to rest to all those who criticize stay-at-home mums for having it easy or they are jobless or worse, living off their partner’s income.
Motherhood comes with a great cost and women pay it happily. All they ask in return is to be treated with dignity. That their efforts and hard work get acknowledged just the way any professional’s do. Because work is work, after all, no matter if you get paid for it or not. Every human deserves respect for how much they work, and not how much they earn for their work.
So on this Mother’s Day, Instead of just wishing her “HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY”, be grateful to her, appreciate her, write a Thank-You Note for her, and next time you hear a new mom deciding to stay home instead of going back to work, do me a favour. Instead of scoffing behind her back just show her some respect. The days are long, but the years are short, remember? We need to value every single day and being a stay at home mom, we’re just trying to soak in every second – even the hard stuff.
I can imagine no heroism greater than motherhood.Lance Conrad